25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. Ephesians 5:25-30, NIV.
Paul presents a penetrating reality of how a husband’s love toward his wife should be at the spiritual level. Those of you who are married, do you love your wife in this manner? Are you striving to do so? Have you been taught to do so? Inasmuch as marriage is a representation of Christ and the church, the devil seeks to destroy it. He will use any means to do it. He has no desire to see a successful marriage! He would have the husband be a “lord in the marriage” without love–demanding respect from the wife without giving it. Unfortunately, in some marriages, the husband is mere tool of Satan being used at the devil’s will. The sad thing about this is–the husband is unaware of it. Don’t expect the world to give you spiritual advice on marriage. The counsel of the ungodly is cursed. (Psalms 1:1). It is better to have not married than to marry not knowing how to love or unwilling to do so.
As a husband, God expects us to meet his standards. After all, we have entered into this relationship wanting to be a husband. Isn’t that right? Right? In some corners, there is a “loud” silence! Listen, men, we must stand before the judgment seat of Christ and give an account as to our “marriage” stewardship! This being so, we must endeavor to love our wives as Christ loves the church. We are going to have to pray hard and work hard at being “godly” husbands. I know that there is another side to this–the wive’s side (I will deal with that part in my next writing, God willing),but God will judge us for our side. If you want your marriage to last where love is a powerful factor, seek out those whose marriages express this. Will meeting God’s standards be easy? No! Are they impossible? No! Even viewed from the golden rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” we see possibilities from which to operate from as husbands. Your wife is the closest person to you! She is a part of you! She is your help-meet! She is your complement! She is your conscience! She is your comfort during the storms of life! She is the one who has seen you during all the seasons of your life, and still loves you! Husbands love your wives, and in so doing you wil love yourselves!